6th Sense - not the movie
Have you ever had this feeling that something has happened or is about to happen and you find out in reality that it has come true?
One of our dear friends has been experiencing marital problems. The man has been married for over 10 years. He has 2 beautiful children both in primary school. The man's wife is seemingly fed up with the marriage and wants out. Note, she wants the children, just not the husband. What she's unhappy with, I'm not too sure, as we've only heard his side of the story. The story as relayed to us by our friend suggests that perhaps she has hit depression, or is experiencing some sort of mid-life crisis. There's no 3rd party involved. They have been through couples counselling, but she insisted on submitting separation papers to the court.
We are now close to the end - the 3-year mandatory separation period is coming to a close.
Throughout this trying period, we have seen our friend experience desperation, angst and frustration. He could not communicate with the mother of this children. He could not convince her that the marriage is worth saving. None of her friends could get through to her as well. They still live in the same apartment and the children have not been informed of their parents' new arrangement. This carried on for the last 2 years and every time we met up with him, we tried to listen and encourage him.
One day last week, I told hubs to arrange dinner with our friend. I had a feeling... not a great feeling.
True enough, our friend looked brighter, happier in general, bubbly even. My heart sank a little. I mean, I am glad that he looked happier, but this meant that he has gotten over his heartbreak, with or without external impetus i'm not entirely sure, he has certainly moved on. He is even willing to let the wife take his kids.
According to hubs, he has bounced back to the person he was before his wedding. Yikes, at this point i hate my all-too-accurate sixth sense.
From the beginning, I have been rooting for a reconciliation, for the couple and for the children. As long as our friend had the heart for this marriage and for his family to stay together, there is still a chance, no matter how slim of them getting back together and working through their problems. Now that he's moved on, the chance is virtually non-existent.
At the end of dinner, we told him he needs to decide for himself and for his kids what the best course of action is. In my heart I mourned for another family who have gone down this road of divorce.
May God bless the innocent children, who perhaps already have an inkling on the situation, that they are not too adversely affected by the parents' decision.
Note to self: Trust your instincts. They are totally and scarily accurate.
One of our dear friends has been experiencing marital problems. The man has been married for over 10 years. He has 2 beautiful children both in primary school. The man's wife is seemingly fed up with the marriage and wants out. Note, she wants the children, just not the husband. What she's unhappy with, I'm not too sure, as we've only heard his side of the story. The story as relayed to us by our friend suggests that perhaps she has hit depression, or is experiencing some sort of mid-life crisis. There's no 3rd party involved. They have been through couples counselling, but she insisted on submitting separation papers to the court.
We are now close to the end - the 3-year mandatory separation period is coming to a close.
Throughout this trying period, we have seen our friend experience desperation, angst and frustration. He could not communicate with the mother of this children. He could not convince her that the marriage is worth saving. None of her friends could get through to her as well. They still live in the same apartment and the children have not been informed of their parents' new arrangement. This carried on for the last 2 years and every time we met up with him, we tried to listen and encourage him.
One day last week, I told hubs to arrange dinner with our friend. I had a feeling... not a great feeling.
True enough, our friend looked brighter, happier in general, bubbly even. My heart sank a little. I mean, I am glad that he looked happier, but this meant that he has gotten over his heartbreak, with or without external impetus i'm not entirely sure, he has certainly moved on. He is even willing to let the wife take his kids.
According to hubs, he has bounced back to the person he was before his wedding. Yikes, at this point i hate my all-too-accurate sixth sense.
From the beginning, I have been rooting for a reconciliation, for the couple and for the children. As long as our friend had the heart for this marriage and for his family to stay together, there is still a chance, no matter how slim of them getting back together and working through their problems. Now that he's moved on, the chance is virtually non-existent.
At the end of dinner, we told him he needs to decide for himself and for his kids what the best course of action is. In my heart I mourned for another family who have gone down this road of divorce.
May God bless the innocent children, who perhaps already have an inkling on the situation, that they are not too adversely affected by the parents' decision.
Note to self: Trust your instincts. They are totally and scarily accurate.